Q: Who Likes Change?

A: According to speaker & author Nido Quebin, the only person who likes change is a baby in wet diapers.


This is the first of 3 posts I'm going to write about CBS I talked about last time. And the first part is C, CHANGE.


An old man and a dog were sitting on the front porch of an old wooden cabin, and a young man approached them. As the young man came closer, he heard the dog moaning.


The young man came up and asked the old man, "Why is your dog moaning?"


The old man replied, "O, that's ol' Duke. He's lying on a nail."


"Why doesn't he get up?" the young man asked.


"'cause it don't hurt him enough yet."


Ever hear about someone in a job or relationship that is not working and causing pain? Perhaps you've been in a situation where the potential pain of doing something different might be greater than the pain of what has become familiar.


Let me share part of my story about change.


About 10 years ago my life was a disaster. Due to some rotten choices I made I was faced with being unemployable and incapable of independent living. So I was told that I had to go on SSI, continue to take psychiatric medications and live in a boardinghouse, and it probably will be for the rest of my life. So I faced a lifetime of sharing a house with men I didn't want to be around, eating food I didn't want to eat and just sitting in the living room watching endless hours of T-V. A few years passed like this.


Finally, in 2007 the feelings of discontent were too much to bear. But what to do? I found a program on Google Video called The Secret. I was only able to watch a portion of it, as I was at the public library on their computers. Well, I put down the $29.95 plus shipping for the DVD and the film inspired me to take action to affect real change.


So I took pen and notebook and wrote down onto 4-5 pages exactly what I wanted in a new place to live; the kind of people I wanted to be around, the furnishings, appliances, location, all of it in great detail, and--this is IMPORTANT, I added the phrase after I wrote this goal down: OR SOMETHING BETTER.


Four months later an opportunity arose that WAS better than what I originally wanted-independent living in my own apartment. So now I have the freedom to come and go when I want, eat what I want and when I want it, and be able to contribute more. I'm going now on my fourth year. When I told the owner of the boardinghouse what I was going to do, she objected and told me that I couldn't make it on my own, that I needed to stay where I was. Well, I had to take a chance and it paid off.


Now, since then, especially in the last two years for me, change has accelerated rapidly. Opinions that I once clung to have started to change with new, better, empowering Beliefs...which will be for next time.


ACTION STEP: When you write your goals, always add the words OR SOMETHING BETTER. 


To Your Greater Achievements,
Tim